Everyone has a talisman or two – in my case, a dozen! They hold memory and meaning; they can be comfort or inspiration; they can take us home when we are away. Their significance can be instant or it can sneak up on us over time.
Locating meaning isn’t always like looking for the grail, and is often found when we least expect it, in humble places and objects, out under a wide sky or nestled at the foot of a burnt tree. To find meaning does require attention, though, and when I look at the talismans on my desk, I’m reminded that not all of their significance was obvious to me when I first saw them, so I’m glad they called in loud voices.
That eraser in the picture at the top, for instance… I was in Rome, visiting the Ara Pacis – the altar to Peace. White and luminous and stretching back to 9 or 10 BC, it seemed impossible to me that there were cars whizzing past outside, and mobile phones pinging in the corridors around it. I was transfixed by the life of the characters in the friezes, and the delicacy of the rendering of vines and trees. Someone, centuries ago, had loved the world just as I did, dreaming of the possibility of peace between people, and trusting that we might find it if we learned to live lovingly with nature.
Or that’s what I saw!
At the giftshop I went seeking something to remind me of an extraordinary day when time had stood still and peace seemed possible. What did I find? A humble rubber with a message that seemed, at first, to be nothing more than another Roman joke. I don’t know why I didn’t buy images of the altar itself. Perhaps because I decided that no image could do justice to it. Maybe I wanted something solid to hold in my hand. Perhaps it was the outrageous scale of that rubber – the promise that it would be able to erase my multitude of human errors! Forgiveness might be divine, but for earthly muck-ups, that rectangle would get rid of plenty of mess!
I brought it home where it sat unused on my desk for months, a memento and nothing more. Then, one day, feeling wretched about writing that wouldn’t bend to my will, I picked up my Ara Pacis souvenir, and I let rip. I rubbed and rubbed the page, watching mistakes and false starts disappear, leaving an almost clean slate. There were traceries etched into the page, but it was fresh again, waiting for me to rethink, restart.
And I did.
And it was good and bad and right and wrong.
Something in that feverish act of ridding myself of the work that hadn’t worked was healthy and helpful. I learn things best by experience, and while I had always known intellectually that error is human and vital to the creative process, and that I should forgive myself and move one, it was only when my body enacted the words that I actually “got” their meaning. Rather like when I am following a trail and take a “wrong” turning. I do understand now that there is no such thing, and that I am never lost – I’m just where I am.
I don’t often use the Ara Pacis rubber, because I mostly write in pen, but it travels with me, and when I want to really play and muck up and risk, I will take a pencil and paper, and my talisman, and let rip. It is fun and freeing, and I am grateful. I hope it will travel with me for a very long time, reminding me to be human and to err with gusto in my work.
There are other talismans – the precious Finisterre shell, reminding me that if I can walk 1300 kilometres to collect it, step by step, then I can complete my word-count camino at the desk, sentence by sentence. There are my beads for fingering in times of stress; the stones that are identifiers, reinforcers and weights to ground me; the dragonfly – libellula – to remind me of love and laughter; the postcards from afar that prompt me to do better for those I value; and the fat silver heart that says it all…
And there are the stamps with their tin of red ink.
Well, they are the things I want to send at the end of every missive – a piece of my best self, and love in all languages. For today, consider this a page of thick white parchment with a piece of me on it, sent to you wherever you are in the world, with love in sticky red ink pressed into the bottom right hand corner.
Update – 29th May 2013
Thanks to all who came along to the Sydney Writers Festival session with Cheryl Strayed and Caroline Baum. It was such fun, and you can listen to it by clicking here.
Huge gratitude to Rachael Kohn for inviting me and Tony Doherty to be part of her beautiful programme, The Spirit of Things. Details for listening and download are here.
Gracias otra vez!!!
22 thoughts on “Talismans”
We receive so much from visceral experiences; crying, laughing, walking, love making and physically erasing errant words 🙂 The symbolic objects that return us to those moments of significance are important to us all, thanks for the reminder and the lovely post Ailsa, I hope the writing is going well and that the SWF is a hoot. Love H
Thanks Harry. The body is my best teacher. Maybe I’m not very bright, but I always find its lessons are the ones that stick. Thanks for your wishes – the writing is a bit of a plod at present but I do think it is moving forward. Looking forward so much to the SWF. Trust your work is coming on apace. A xx
?-Will this Chinese character appear on this comment (slightly modified from the one on your AILSA seal) or will it transform itself into gobbledy-gook? The meaning is: To enjoy. Pleasure. With the character for sound – it means “music”!
After my childhood spent avoiding the cracks in pathways and then my prayerful fundamentalist protestant upbringing was put away – I saw myself as totally not superstitious. Lucky numbers? Oh, come on! Amulets, charms? For the sentimental – keepsakes I could understand – just! First major travels – abroad – some souvenirs for others and myself. Hmm. Holding memory – an anchor to that time and place. Interesting – but generally useful, too – some pieces of Orrefors or Arabia – a bell or two from my time in España. Then the loss of our first. My wife – about as prosaic as myself – took to lighting candles in churches and cathedrals on our travels. We found some talismans in Greece and in Turkey – warding off the evil eye. Then the loss of our twins: then we were together in Japan. In some Buddhist temples a vaguely female-looking “mizu-jizo” figure – small babes at foot – a place for lighting candles and the chance to dipper water over the figure/s. For women who had had abortions/lost their children before live birth (natural and otherwise)! Toys of various kind generally placed there, too. Moving. Gradually we began purchasing talismans at both temples and (Shinto) shrines: for others: good luck in exams; good health; successful birth; etc. In Canada a cousin gave me a lucky stone – similar to one I saw on your desk, Ailsa. I gave a talk in Japan about the earliest Jesuit missionary who spent a year or so there – a sizeable proportion of his time in the region where I lived – assisted in my speech by a noted Jesuit theologian cousin in London. At the site in the neighbouring city where Francisco XAVIER SJ had lived – now a rather ugly church unsympathetically designed by an Italian architect with no feel for Japanese aesthetics to replace the former “traditional” church which burned down just over 20 years ago- I found a lapel pin of XAVIER – and took to wearing it. Then a pin badge from the former Imperial Naval Academy – now a Self-Defence Forces Academy – where an Australian cousin (by marriage) was stationed immediately post-war as part of Australia’s first BCOF contingent (1945-1946). I added Jomon/Yayoi/to Tumulus era “magatama” – the curved jewel (one of the three ancient Imperial regalia – comma-shaped – some would suggest foetus-shaped) carved from agate. No, I’m not superstitious – I would tell myself – as I placed a talismanic seal on our car back in Australia guaranteeing Road/Traffic safety – or as I hung one from the rear-view mirror of the UK hire car! (They inevitably worked, by the way – never an accident!) And now – in jars and drawers – there must be a hundred – a cousin visiting the other day tipped out a tall glass cylinder of the things – a good 50+ in it alone! In the last city in which I lived a good mate was the Shinto priest of the centre city Shrine. I became aware that he was clairvoyant. Unbelievably so. I never asked about myself – each day unfolds in its own adventure-filled way – unswayed by another’s forecast – but he “saw” things about a friend’s daughter in Australia who had suffered a near-fatal fall – and for whom he saw full recovery when it seemed impossible. And so it came to pass in super-quick time. I happily wear the honorary shrine member’s pin-badge he gave me! Why would one not! And Ailsa – I have my ticket for the Writers’ Festival session: “Lost and Found”!
Jim! This is like a tone-poem of memory and loss and grief and resilience, full of such wonderful images and sentiments. Thanks so much for giving so generously of your life and your thoughts. Really beautiful. My heart went out to you and yours so often. And then it was restored by what you found.
Hope we can find each other for a hello after the SWF session. What a treat. We can be FOUND!
Thank you again for all that beauty.
Hola Ailsa, talesmen are important. They keep us sane, sometimes. If I recall your book correctly the weather girl, Anna Belle Are travelled north with you. Well she is now on breakfast TV presenting. For Tony Kevin it was the N630 highway, well Tony would pleased to find that the n630 has been replaced by the A66 motor way, the Autorouto Via due LA Plata. I start my Camino from Merida on Friday. Cheers Mike
Mike! What lovely titbits of news!
Buen Camino from glorious Merida. May the road bring peace and happiness.
My whole house is full of talismans from the nick-knacks on my desk to the books and photos on my shelves,everything seems to be some external memory that I have surrounded myself with,lest I forget.
Which reminds me of a book I bought as a memento of a talk by Janine Burke about nests,at the Byron Bay Writer’s Festival last year –
I loved how Janine mentioned the bower bird in her talk and there was a sculpture of a bower bird not far away at the Festival,as luck would have it.
I think we are all bower birds in a way,how we go about decorating our own nests with memories and trinkets,if not to impress others then to make an impression on ourselves.
All the books I have bought at the Festival over the years are more than books to me,they are memories of fascinating talks by the authors who have changed the direction of my life by giving me little pointers as I walk on.
Life is a journey,more than a destination,I feel,and it’s interesting to see where the next few steps on that journey will take me on life’s mysterious walk.
And Cheryl’s adventure trail looks very interesting by these photos she captured –
Very beautiful scenery.
Although this poor guy that made the news yesterday
was on a walk from
Seattle to Brazil (10 000 km),a walk he felt destined to take and now he is dead,hit by a truck in Lincoln City,Oregon.Not far from Cheryl’s Pacific Crest Trail.
So,you never quite know when the journey will come to an abrupt halt in life’s weird walk,again emphasizing it’s the journey and not the destination in life that counts.
Also odd to me in relation to my nest post about crows and ravens was that Richard Swanson (swan,a bird also) had a son named Raven.
Delicious connections and ramblings, Darren. Really lovely.
And yes, I too saw the article about the man who was killed on his walk. So sad.
As you say, we have no idea…
Buen camino, pilgrim.
Looking at your photo of the stones with words on them and the Virgina Woolf book “A Room of One’s Own” reminded my of the story of Virgina Woolf’s death where she let her thoughts weigh her down to the point that she filled her pockets with stones and walked into the creek near her home and drowned herself.
A good metaphor to never let our thoughts weigh us down that much.
I was trying to figure out where I had just read that story and remembered it was from Janine Burke’s book,”Nest:The Art of Birds”
Where she talks about Virgina’s fascination with swallows and rooks…
and her drowning,as well.
Darren! I had not made that connection, but yes, you are right. I am mad for Virginia. Read “To The Lighthouse” at Uni, and didn’t really grasp it, but knew I was onto a mind I admired. Then I slowly trailed her and realised she was a vast spirit I wanted to hold close in my life. Now I go back and back to her writing and find it miraculous. That death seems unthinkable yet inevitable somehow.
Thanks for making that connection. Beautiful. I shall layer my talismans with more meaning as a result. And I clearly have to read the Nests book.
I found ‘Nest’ a good book on a lot of levels,although it’s more about birds,art and literature,and how they influence one another. There are a few nice colour photos in the middle,but it’s not really a coffee table book…although it could be I guess.
I would probably not have bought it if I hadn’t of seen Janine’s talk,but I’m glad that I did,because I found the book worth the read.
I think you’ll like it.
Hello again Ailsa. Hope the Sydney Writers Festival goes well for you. Wish I could be there , but hoping to get to the Byron Bay Festival again in August, so perhaps you will also be at that?
Your words always touch me and I loved reading about your rubber, and your other treasures.
Although I am not much of a one for talismans ( talismen?) I think my mother’s white gold wedding ring ( cut where they had to remove it from her finger) I wear on my right hand is something approaching the nature of one.
I feel a little stronger when she is riding on my pinkie, her life and wisdom at my fingertips, so to speak, and if I forget to put it on when I am going out at times, feel anxious it will be stolen before I return home.
I hadn’t thought of this ring as something to have near me when I am writing, and you know, I should. It would strengthen my resolve to get cracking and importantly, get finished. She was a great advocate of the saying: “Don’t put off til tomorrow what you can do today.”
So while you say, you are finding writing at present a “plod”, I procrastinate.
You are putting steps one in front of the other. I am circling and weaving.
I need straightening and stiffening and turning to face the front.
Thanks again for the brace to help me stand.
Hope to see you soon at one festival or another.
One of my least attractive “talisman” is the brace I wear around my lower back when I sit to write! It is a marvellous help physically, but also reminds me that I’m working. Stick at it. It’s like the belt my mother used to cinch around her waist when she was working on horseback. Work!
Maybe wearing that lovely ring of your mother’s is a good idea. Those little reminders are very potent when they combine our own body awareness with something as deeply personal as the ring.
Thanks for sharing such a lovely memory and reflection. I too wish I was going to be at Byron, but it is probably too much to have hoped for an invitation two years running, and I can’t afford the fare up for myself. I will just have to ehar about it from friends who can go.
Face forward! Step by step.
I forgot to mention another book I picked up the year before at the BBWF
which is more about possessions than talismans,but talismans that are not used as such only become more useless mementos sitting on the shelf like unread books that stay unread. .
Ailsa! I missed the message about saying hello post to-day’s Writers Fest session with Cheryl. But I was there – near mid-2nd row – nodding in agreement with all your thinking on aspects of walking – whether pilgrimage or other. So sorry not to have waited around to speak – I had to head off immediately to another session – and in any case I know lots of people would have wanted to speak with you! La proxima vez!
It was a lovely generous session, wasn’t it? And Cheryl is a great gal. Thanks for coming along – so sorry we didn’t cross paths, but I was grateful to have some of my village with me. Hope the next session was great fun, and that you didn’t get drenched! Hasta la proximal. Please.
I’ve had some days here and there – old friends/old students/old colleagues – a kinsman who is just back from walking the 88-temple pilgrimage – we swapped tales back and forth (no moderator to set the pace – in the coffee shop at UTS. And yesterday & to-day on Radio National (replayed) Rachael COHN with you and Fr DOCHERTY. To-morrow is (suddenly) my 64th. I’ll be up at Blackheath – by train – to see one of my old bosses – talk books and ideas – and wash her car! Sublime to mundane – but the time on the train I’ll be reading Pankaj MISHRA and William DALRYMPLE! There are so many strings to your generous life – which you share with us with true humility and self-deprecatory aside – blessings and courage both – to you.
Happy birthday! I hope that when the fog lifts you will be ale to see for miles and miles from up in glorious Blackheath. How lovely. Your days sound so rich and full. Beautiful
And you will undoubtedly still be valued and loved…now you’re 64! That was the age of the Beatles song, wasn’t it?
Thanks for your visit. You always bring so much.
Listened to the fascinating spirit of things discussion and also found the poetica show. Beautiful! The notion of carrying sins and the title of the book would have turned me off as I am a “recovering Catholic”. But like Fr Tony Doherty exposure to your words and thoughts have me captured my soul. This evening as I drove through Central Victoria to the church I serve I listened to the podcast of the discussion with Rachel and Fr Tony and yourself. I rejoice at the insights your walk have given all of us. I shed a tear or two when I heard you speak of the need for confession and I think it was Fr Tonys words about our ache to be understood. Powerful, liberating and utterly true. Thank you so much for sharing your experience I hope to purchase the book in the next few days and read it. At so many different levels I hear what you are saying and the One Who speaks through you. Blessings, peace and “the road goes on forever and the journey never ends”
I can almost see you travelling through Central Victoria – it’s my regular walking turf, and that twisting camino down the hill to Castlemaine along the water race is one of my favourite walks. I always find that elusive commodity – peace – when I am plodding along there.
I’m so grateful that the programme spoke to you. I think Rachael is making something very beautiful there, every week, and was enormously glad to be a part of it. Sincere thanks for your lovely response, and may those familiar Goldfields roads continue to bring you home, in all ways.
Buen camino and gracias.
Blessings+++ Here is one of my favourite poems, don’t know if you’ve seen it or not…….couldn’t help but think of it after hearing the podcast.
THE LAND’S MEANING by Randolph Stow
For Sidney Nolan
The love of man is a weed of the waste places,
One may think of it as the spinifex of dry souls.
I have not, it is true, made the trek to the difficult country
where it is said to grow; but signs come back,
reports come back, of continuing exploration
in that terrain. And certain of our young men,
who turned in despair from the bar, upsetting a glass,
and swore: “No more” (for the tin rooms stank of flyspray)
are sending word that the mastery of silence
alone is empire. What is God, they say,
but a man unwounded in his loneliness?
And the question (applauded, derided) falls like dust
on veranda and bar; and in pauses, when thinking ceases,
the footprints of the recently departed
march to the mind’s horizons, and endure.
And often enough as we turn again, and laugh,
cloud, hide away the tracks with an acid word,
there is one or more gone past the door to stand
(wondering, debating) in the iron street,
and toss a coin, and pass, to the township’s end,
where one-eyed ‘Mat, eternal dealer in camels,
grins in his dusty yard like a split fruit.
But one who has returned, his eyes blurred maps
of landscapes still unmapped, gives this account:
“The third day, cockatoos dropped dead in the air.
Then the crows turned back, the camels knelt down and
and a skin-coloured surf of sandhills jumped the horizon
and swamped me. I was bushed for forty years.
“And I came to a bloke all alone like a kurrajong tree.
And I said to him: ‘Mate – I don’t need to know your name –
Let me camp in your shade, let me sleep, till the sun goes
This is such a thrill. I don’t know this poem, but it sings to me, and Randolph Stowe’s book, Merry Go Round in the Sea is one of my all time favourites. Thank you so very much for knowing the poem would be for me! Wonderful instinct and so appreciated. Muchas Gracias, Fr Moses.